Hmmm... Well, it is an extremely powerful part of a man's instincts to look at a woman's body, including her curves, breasts, legs, etc. However, add to that the fact that he JUST WANTS TO. If you saw a beautiful sunset you would want to look at it, simply because it is pleasing. If you … Read more

I think there can be only one answer: Both of you need to work on your respective marriages, including getting therapy if necessary and probably working out past grievances or unresolved issues, to make sex work. It may be that the problems are unsolvable. But your first responsibility is to find a way to make … Read more

The WORST thing you can do is lie to him or insult his intelligence. Often, guys are wounded NOT so much because you turned him down (although that hurts) BUT BECAUSE HE FEELS HUMILIATED or offended by the way that a woman handles it. If you lie to him -- including by NOT telling him … Read more

Like it or not, as a man it is your job to romance a woman. It is possible that she is taking advantage of you (but doesn't sound like that to me). It is possible that she is a rare woman who likes sex but just doesn't care about love. But it sounds far more … Read more

Technically, making love and having sex have traditionally meant exactly the same thing. However, in truth, having sex can be done without romantic feeling and so "making love" is many times used to describe an entirely different WAY of having sex, in which every touch is communicating great affection and caring for the other person. … Read more

How about DANG NO! Like N O !!! Would you stand up on your chair and strip naked at a family Thanksgiving? Most things that you THINK will stay secret do NOT stay secret. The weirdness of these relationships being strained in that way will make it very hard to keep everything else normal. Even … Read more

All of these issues are really hard for women to understand.  The things that make a woman look beautiful to a man are often very mysterious and perhaps not logical -- and VERY, VERY STRONGLY CHANGE from one man to the next.  I remember arguing with my frat brothers in college over the swimsuit edition … Read more