Beth Motherearth answered question 3/13/2009 Do You Think Paying For A Lap Dance By A Stripper Or Exotic Dancer Is Cheating? Is It Still Cheating If Your Friends Pay For You? Two things - be honest and strippers are paid for that shit. If you had sex it would be a different scenario. But it's nothing personal and all driven by money - so no... I don't see it as cheating.