Yes it is normal. I do think you need to see your OBGYN  because maybe something else could be going on..I have had 3 miscarriages and iv ea bray painful. It will take time for your body to heal itself..

Dreams don't always come true . I do think something is bugging you...But I also think at one point in time every one has a dream like that ....

I can't give you steps but , just talk to her and tell her what your needs and wants are ...who knows she might just go for it .