Through past experience i have learned to mind my own business,as no matter what you decide to do your going to be at fault,
It all depends on the individual,but I find that white girls give in far to easy if its a black guy they intend sleeping with
Don't let go of your children,as long as you have your children there is always hope and a chance to try an rebuild what you and their father had as this way he will always be in your life,love conquers all