I've been there and I told the wife, in writing.  I wanted her to see it in writing.  Things tend to have a much bigger impact.    I told the wife, not because I wanted her husband, but  simply because I was tired of being an accomplice to his lies and parallel life.  She had … Read more

Just be honest and specific, but not too many details.  And be prepared for backlash.  The wife will hate you, probably more than their husband.  You are not the first and probably not the last OW.  The wives of these cheaters need to look into themselves  why he cheated AND WHY they stay with the … Read more