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If your significant other died, how long would it take for you to move on, if ever at all?

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Ancient Hippy Profile
Ancient Hippy answered

Mine died 14 years ago and I haven't moved on and really don't want to.

dragonfly forty-six Profile

Move on? Like date or have a relationship with another?

I'll never marry again. He is the love of my life. After a long while, I will enjoy an occasional gentleman caller. I like being alone and enjoy my company, but might need the companionship occasionally.

Toni Pauze Profile
Toni Pauze answered

I don't think I'd ever move on. I like my own company and at my age I'm good.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

I don't think I will move on, but then again, I also said I wasn't going to get married.

Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

WOW, this is a great question . . .

So, I would think I wouldn't ever FULLY move on. My expectations would at least start there . . . That doesn't mean I wouldn't pursue some sort of physical relationships . . . It would most likely take me 2-3 years to do this . . .

carlos Striker Profile
carlos Striker answered

Well all depends on significance?

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

I met my husband in 1976 when we were at college together. Fast forward to 1992 when we finally got married. 1993 we had a son together. 1995 his first son died unexpectedly after he finished basic training in the Air Force. In addition to losing my step-son, I also lost my husband when he died. The grief is so overwhelming when you lose a child, 80% of the marriages end in divorce.

I stuck it out for another 2 1/2 years, but only time could heal that wound. I did date after my divorce, but I never found "the one". However, I don't think it's a betrayal to move on after a loss.

For some, they are content with only one true love in their life. For others that seek love and find another to fill that void and to love completely, who I am to say that it's wrong?

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Toni Pauze
Toni Pauze commented
I'm sorry:(
Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
Great answer.
My biggest fear is losing one of my children, and the impact that would have on my relationship . . .
Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
If your marriage is strong before the death of a child, your marriage should survive the loss. However, if you were struggling in the marriage before, the probability that the marriage would make it through the heart-rending grief would be very small.

About a year after my step-son died, I was introducing a new team member to his new boss. He was a week late in getting to us (from Texas to Nebraska) so as a matter of small talk, I asked how the move was coming along - was his family up here with him, etc.

He informed me that they had just buried their 12 y/o son. On the trip to Nebraska, their station - packed with five kids, household goods, etc. - had a flat tire on the interstate in Kansas. They pulled over safely on the shoulder - everyone stood patiently on the side of the road.

Good Samaritans on the other side of the Interstate stopped to lend assistance. Their 12 y/o was killed when he ran across the road to return the tire iron that was lent to them.

The parents galvanized the group into action. They got the child off the road - prayed over their child even though they were pretty sure he died. Many cars stopped to lend assistance to this family. They cleaved one to another instead of grieving separately. That made the difference in how their marriage survived and mine did not.

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